Why Am I the Only Dad at My Daughter’s Gymnastics Practice?

 

TIME THE MOST UNDERVALUED ASSET

I look around. Every day I search for a new face. Despite my searches I find none.

I come to my daughter’s gymnastic practices. I enjoy every achievement she makes. I treasure each moment of character developed. I admire each look she gives me. She turns around to see if I am still there. Of course, I am. I’m not going anywhere silly!

She smiles. Her face shouts, “SEE!”

My eyes say, “GOOD JOB!”

She tumbles across a beam and flips off a pole.

When we are away, she tells me most people sit inside their cars. She tells me rarely anyone watches her as I do. It makes me think. I only see women when I look around. Our gymnasts lack male spectators.

Seems like I stand out. Funny. I didn’t know treasuring each moment of your child’s life is so rare amongst males. Caring and treasuring are different. I’m sure every father cares about their child (in some capacity).

BUT

Treasuring a moment, cherishing a moment, valuing a moment, and caring about a moment are all different. None of them are the same. Moments are fractions of time. Time is an asset.

Am I really that rare for treasuring these moments?

It seems so.

HOW MOST MALES USE THEIR ASSET

Some theorize the value I hold in my time for my child is due to a lot of motherly influence. Some say I’m emotional. Others say my retirement affords me opportunity. I guess. People always make time for what they want.

Treasuring a moment, cherishing a moment, valuing a moment, and caring about a moment are all different. None of them are the same. Moments are fractions of time. Time is an asset.

I have yet to meet a man who missed a championship boxing fight. I have yet to meet a man who missed a super bowl. I have yet to meet a man who skips the NBA finals. I have yet to meet a man who skips the gym.

Of course, I’m not talking about men who aren’t interested in sports or working out.

It seems time is valued different. Time is nonrefundable. Time cannot be redeposited into your bank account. If time is an asset than how do you invest your time?

THE CHOICE OF TIME REDUCTION OR EXPONENTIAL GROWTH

Culture from my generation was different. We were taught to embody masculinity. Some call it toxic masculinity. I don’t think there is such thing.

There are just types of men.

Not every shoe size fits a foot.

Men who complain about the culture are weak. Men who promote the culture are misguided. In truth, the complete man seeks balance. Work, family, intellect, emotional intelligence, and spirituality allow man to fully complete himself.

Ego is fed by believing in yourself. Often Ego has nothing to show for it except your good attitude.

1. Work comprises money, exercise, ambition, and diligence.

2. Family comprises love, marriage, sex, and security.

3. Intellect comprises ego, self-confidence, self-esteem, and purpose.

4. Emotional intelligence comprises success, relationships, career advancement and social status.

5. Spirituality comprises inner peace, wisdom, happiness, and ethics.

Disagree?

Well, this article isn’t a debate.

This article isn’t purposed for absolute truth.

This article is about my approach and where it has taken me. I’ve gone quite far. Further than most and a lot further than many. It took me to the top 1% financially. I reckon it has taken me to the top 1% in emotional empathy too.

Results typically speak for themselves.

Confidence is achieved through hard work. Hard work is about doing not talking. I did for a long time before I started writing.

Ego is fed by believing in yourself. Often Ego has nothing to show for it except your good attitude.

It’s always important to be real with yourself. Where you allocate time on items 1–5 are important. Your choice will result in exponential growth or reduction.

MOST MALE CHOICES

Most males in society today choose number 1.

Confidence is achieved through hard work. Hard work is about doing not talking. I did for a long time before I started writing.

Number 1 reduces time. Number 1 isn’t to be neglected but it doesn’t do anything for your time. You have less of it when you’re done. You might have a more comfortable lifestyle but that’s about all you get from it.

Number 2 increases your time. Number 2 lets your ideas, opinions and views live beyond you. The more you invest into it the longer you exist on this planet. It has a cap though. Most people cannot remember more than 3 generations back.

Number 3 reduces time. Regardless of how you feel about yourself your feelings die with you. This is just truth. You won’t feel anything when you’re dead. Facts.

Number 4 exponentially grows your time. All great thinkers, philosophers and people of history relate to people. Sometimes they relate to people through the ages. Marcus Aurelius, Solomon, Muhammad, Ghandi and Martin Luther King. The list can go on. All were orators but they conveyed ideas which struck the hearts of others. Hearts feel. If you make yourself felt deeply it lasts long.

Number 5 arguably gives you infinite time. Men not forgotten to history are prophets, messiahs and messengers. Men who serve these interests are often immortalized. The catholic church has saints. The shite faith of Islam has Imams. Dedicating yourself to a higher purpose is the path for being immortalized.

MOST MALES ARE DESTINED TO BE FORGOTTEN

History decides who is forgotten and who is remembered. Most males will not be remembered past their children.

Depending on how they act they might not even be remembered that well by their own children.

When I look around and see the absence of males at my daughter’s practice…I think,

“No wonder why these men won’t be remembered. Their children won’t even remember them at their practice.”

Men next time you decide what to do ask yourself, “Do I care if I am forgotten?”

If the answer is no.

Sit on the couch and watch the game. Take another shift. Take a nap. Go to the gym. Make another business call. Take that extra meeting. Whatever it is you’re doing right now.

If the answer is yes.

Show up and watch your daughter. Watch her make her first moment of triumph. Much of my time goes to 2, 4 & 5 now. You would be surprised how little 1 and 3 need to be successful.

WHEN YOU CHOOSE NOT TO BE FORGOTTEN

You will be surprised just how happy you become. Are you happy? If not I”m guessing you choose 1 a lot.

I spent enough time on number 1.

I chronicled it in my international best selling book, “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. I am more than qualified to tell you which one is better.

Trust me. If you don’t trust me, pick up a copy on Amazon and let me earn that trust. I promise it will be worth every penny.

To your knowledge success!

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Not a form of investment advice. Please consult a professional registered to give you advice about your individual circumstance. This article is for educational purposes and entertainment purposes only. Please do not email the author about advice on investing or strategies on making investments.

About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. Christopher has opened over 7 businesses in his 15-year career. Christopher’s purpose is to take advantage of various market-driven opportunities. Christopher is a certified Master Project Manager (MPM), and Accredited Financial Analyst (AFA). Christopher previously held his Series 65 securities license examination and was a Master Financial Planner (MFP). Christopher also held his General Lines — Life, Accident, Health & HMO. Christopher has managed a combined 286mm USD in reported Assets Under Management & Assets Under Advisement. Christopher has work experience in 33 countries, raised over 50mm USD for various businesses, and grossed over 13.0mm in his personal career. Christopher worked in the highly technical industries of: biotechnology, finance, securities, manufacturing, real estate, and residential mortgages. Christopher is a United States Air Force Veteran. Christopher has a passion for family, competitive sports, fishing, martial arts and advocacy for entrepreneurs. Christopher provides self-help classes for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. Christopher’s passion to mentor comes from belief that entrepreneurs need guidance. The world is full of conflicting information about entrepreneur identity. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.

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